Look and You Will Find
When you have trouble inserting a tampon, you need a plan of action. This is the first tip in a ten part series on making tampons easier to use.
I hate to state the obvious.
But sometimes the simple things can be overlooked. You need to know where this thing needs to go. You need to know what’s what down there.
It never ceases to amaze me how little we women know the intimate parts of our bodies. The vulva (the area between the legs from the bone at the front all the way to your anus) is a mysterious, often unexplored territory.
The best advice I can give here is:
Be brave. Have a look with a mirror. Find out where you’re going.
Not keen? Don’t worry. I’m not asking you to love this process (yet). I’m not going to go all 1970’s hippy feminist sexuality class on you (but not to say this doens’t work for some!).
Just be sensible. Think rationally. You don’t try to get a contact lens in your eye with your eyes closed, do you? (Maybe that’s a silly analogy, but I think you get the point).
Look at what you’re doing (at first – you won’t need to do this forever). (And mums – please encourage your daughters to do this! They very likely will not want you there. But make sure they have the resources they need to do this successfully – a large hand mirror, perhaps The V Book by Blah Blah.)
Get the mirror out, lie on the bed and hold it between your legs. Or, lie down in front of your wardrobe mirror. (Lock the door first.)
Separate the labia. In English, that means pull your lips apart. The lips (or labia) are the folds of skin around the vaginal opening.
Have a good look and/or feel until you are happy you know where the vaginal entrance is.
I know of people who have been trying to put the tampon in the “wrong hole”.
I even know a husband and wife who were trying to get the penis in the “wrong hole” – the urethra, or entrance to the bladder.
Don’t panic though – it’s much more common to think it’s the “wrong hole” and for it to actually be the “right hole”.
In these cases, it’s difficult for other reasons.
We’ll get to some of those reasons in the next blog post, and the one after.
For now, don’t be afraid to look. Remember, it’s just being practical.