Getting From the Plastic Thing to the Real Thing – Part 1

Pain with sex can be a bit of a project to resolve.

I’ve written a lot about painful sex due to muscular causes. (The old term is vaginismus. I still use this term because usually that’s what the doctor has called it to the patient coming to see me. And the new official term, “Genito Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorder” has a way of making you quake at the knees.)

I’ve often said to the women I see that I wish I could make their vaginismus with sex go away with the wave of a magic wand. But muscles don’t switch on and off with the click of your fingers.

Retraining your muscles takes time.

Retraining your muscles takes attention.

Retraining your muscles takes motivation!

If you’ve used vaginal dilators as part of your program to resolve vaginismus, you’ll have first-hand experience of the commitment and discipline required to solve this problem.

Many women who use dilators progress well through the program and experience the reward of pain-free sex at the end of it – and the elation that comes with it!

But if you had solved the problem, you probably wouldn’t be reading this post.

Maybe you are finding the dilators really hard to get going with.

In that case, you will love my series on The Alien Concept of Vaginal Dilators, as well as Ten Ways to Make Using Your Dilators Less Appealing!

Sometimes the barrier is actually not a physical one. Sometimes it’s your brain that’s putting up the most resistance, and not allowing you to move forward.

In this situation, you may want to know more about retraining your brain in vaginal and pelvic pain.

But if you have been persisting with your dilators for a while, have made it to the biggest one, but just can’t move on to the last dilator from there, this blog series is for you.

Training with dilators is all about small, measurable steps.

In this series I’ll go through some ways you can structure your training sessions and get to – and past – that last dilator.

I’ll also help you with some stepping stones from the training to the “real thing”.

Can’t wait? Need help now?

For one-on-one training in making this transition, make an appointment to see me.